my sister is always complaining to me about how she has shitty friends who bail out on her when she needs them most. generally she can't keep friends for more than a year or so.
every time this happens all i can think about is how she would have more friends if she would treat people better. if she knew how to be a friend herself. how the negative energy she puts out into the world comes back at her and makes her life more difficult and that it would stop if she would just try to be a nicer person.
my ex had the same problem. she was always feeling shitty about all the bad things that happened to her but never understood that it has everything to do with how negative a person she is and how much energy she puts into hating everything.
you attract what you put out. my sister attracts shitty friends because she is a shitty friend herself. i attract people who make me feel more insecure because i am still insecure. changing the things in your life that bring you down is, i think, a matter of changing the way you think and what kinds of things you put out into the world. positive energy begets positive energy.
not that i can tell my sister this because she will just yell and tell me i sound like our mother and that i don't know what i'm talking about. bah.